Give me! Love! - Not love

in #love6 years ago

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Today we have an interesting topic to share with you and we are open to your feedback.

People often has mistaken on the concept of falling in love. They think it is to beg/demand to their partners to fulfill their unmet desire. But, as the word goes "to fall in love with ..." which means to let go part of yourself (ego, selfish desires) and be open to cherish a different set of character (your partner). You being happy of how he/she is, rather than to shape him/her to your desire.

So how the hell, people took it the other way? Simply because of two things one due to our faltered perspective and another due to lack of self love.

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Our mind had fail to see through the continuous bombardment of digital contents which surfaces the celebrations of once love. It is always wonderful to celebrate love (hugs, kisses, proposal) but we need to actively train our mind to understand that those moments are portraying the act of giving. The gift or actions are just one way of expressing love.

But due to the ego, people tend to compare the celebrations and make those as requirements ...

The act of giving is simply an outcome due to an irresistible need to communicate the unconditional love with the other person in a physical form (materialization) and not to earn fame or due to force... Unfortunately we had developed importance only for the physical outcome and made it into necessity that the lover must provide.

So you don't ask for outcome of love, you simply be the love (naturally to outburst with care). What???

Yeah it is always our next level of our being, it is a potential within us. When you become a mother or father you always tend to develop this caring, or when your pet fall sick/dies you tend to provide this care although at those moment you know the pet is no more going fulfill your desire..

So going back to our context, our love for others is about bursting with care and the outcomes could be hugs or diamonds which is just few of infinite ways to communicate physically by materializing our love have for other.

The outcome of two different people love could be totally unique and will bring a lot of surprise to you. Outburst with care & affection for the trusted partner.

Short of self love

Another problem is due to lack of self love that leads to lack of confidence and possessiveness. This will be continued...