Shame can be devastating, and leave such deep wounds that show up as "unfortunate" responses in our much later adult lives.

I remember reading an article in a psychology magazine in the doctor's waiting room many years ago, and it talked about an experiment that had been done on people with their brains connected to fMRI equipment... which showed that the brainwaves of a person being shamed were almost identical to those of a person in excruciating physical pain like a serious gunshot wound, or physical torture.

"Shaming" was the most common form of disciplining in the house where I grew up... and I spent many many years undoing the psychological damage that it did; the sense of being almost "subhuman" and worthless takes a lot of self-inquiry and therapy to get past.