Well, I decided to stay, only to check my stuff and see that this one guy @spotlight and his friend @gktown are both going through here downvoting every single post i have, making it impossible to earn on my account. Things like this, are going to drive me and hundreds away from this platform. I do not know what to do, and nobody will help me. It pisses me off, because i have invested my own money into this, and got my daughter involved, and now she is heart broken......it's stupid, honestly. I have nowhere to go and no way to do anything about it.....
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One I'm glad you decided to stay. Two if I get involved, I don't know if I could help. Three I will approach them and find out what they are upset about.
Many times though I find myself in this he said/she said situation. I'm sure they had a reason without knowing it, so if you would be willing to listen to what they had a problem with and agree to not do it, then I will approach them and see what I can do.
But I wouldn't want to jump in and have it be a "he said/she said situation"... If they feel you didn't something wrong, like blasting that message out and trying to "get them" back, would you be willing to admit you blew a gasket and apologize for that?
Again I am just trying to help if you want me to help. I don't think everyone has to be friends, but I think everyone should try to respect the others opinion and agree to disagree and move forward. And that would go both ways too.
So do you want me to try and see what I can do?
I've explained to him how he can best navigate this situation.
I've asked @terminallyill to stop reposting.
He's agreed to stop reposting.
I've agreed to stop downvoting.
If I see evidence that he is no longer reposting, I'll remove some flags.
If he keeps talking about how I should "know my place", maybe I'll leave them up.
Excellent @gktown that seems fair and I'm sure @terminallyill will abide by those rules and it is good that you will remove the flags.
@terminallyill, I hope you understand that there is no need to bring this issue up anymore. Just understand what @gktown's issue was, respect that it is valid and not personal to you, and just don't "re-post" again and he will remove some of the flags to get you going on the right foot again.
Sometimes things blow out in the moment, but if you just step back and realize he has one issue that he is asking you to respect (re-posting) then this is resolved. You can move forward and enjoy your time here again. Also one day you will see that it is such a small event considering the awesome opportunity you have in the future.
I hope you see it, get it out of your head and lets move forward in a positive manner!
Thanks to you both @gktown and @terminallyill...
see both my replies below and also @gktown. What he is asking for is reasonable, so let's move forward. I'm glad you brought it to my attention and I look forward to helping you make up for lost time ;)
This would be an acceptable thing, IF him and his friends would stop dropping in on my posts to say ignorant things that are not productive, initiating conflict, again, and then proceeding to start flagging everything, again. I literally posted once today, and it was original content, it wasnt reposted, stolen, anything. I did my part, i eventually ignored these guys, shit calmed down. I go out for a bit, i come back on, no doubt EVERY single post, original with 1 post or a duplicate post, ALL are flagged, and all three of these guys are talking shit and keeping it going. Seriously, me and several others agree they need to grow up. I followed the rules, if they would leave me the hell alone, there'd be no more issue. They create it, because they are childish.
Personally I want to move forward, but having these guys shame flag me just because they want to bully newcomers, is completely uncalled for. I'm done asking them to stop. If they refuse to, I'll have to take matters into different directions
Here is where you should stop. They have already said they will not only stop, but they will reverse some of the damage they did already. You got what you want, you can move forward in peace.
I would edit my comments (if I was in your position) to only reflect that you are happy to move forward in peace and LEAVE IT AT THAT. You do not have to mention what will happen otherwise, because they already agreed. This isn't a game where anyone likes conflict or drama. It is a place that people like me come to have fun.
I want you to be in my circle of friends and we can have fun together. But that won't happen if you try to battle them. Life isn't always fair and you can't force your will on anyone else. So why bother to issue veiled threats? I suggest you just edit your replies to something like this:
"I'm glad it got worked out. I won't re-post anything again. And I accept that this matter is closed and they will remove some of my flags. I want to have fun here at steemit and we can all go forward peacefully"
If you say that then you are not "giving in" or "backing down"... You are simply acknowledging what bothered them as they have already agreed to fix what bothered you.
Its over if you want it to be. And I can't help you any more than this if you keep going. The problem is resolved, but you have to do your part which is to simply move forward.
(do you really think this will matter in 5 years? Put it in perspective and let's have some fun)
Calm, diplomatic advice, my bro. I logged on today to see your Steem number at 15. I was shocked. I don't know you, but you appear to be an articulate, decent bloke. Mistakes have been made. Things have got out of hand. It appears you are very, very frustrated. I replied on one of your earlier posts my disbelief. Baby steps backwards from all out war is beneficial to both parties.
In time hopefully a compromise will be beneficial to both parties. We can continue reading your muses, they can have a very worthwhile contributor to the community.
I dunno. I'm.new to this too. I don't know about this resteem stuff. Probably why I get like 5c per post and thats from mates. Ha ha. But yeh. Hopefully, your number can be put back up to where it should be and this whole sorry episode can be resolved.
Good on you though. You're a good bloke.
thank you very much for taking the time to write that and I agree with you about de-escalating things. You are a good bloke too :)