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RE: Engagement by Class (What are the Minnows doing?)

in #engagement4 years ago

... going out of my way to "lure" dolphins and orcas to my account seem quite a dirty and low tactic to me.

I think as long as you are mixing up who you speak to, there is no harm in this if done right.

I would just dare to say that there's a generation of red-fish/minnows that just didn't survive.

Possible, if not a bit sad.

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Yeah, but the power dynamics are still a lot different than just having a school of peers that you're more naturally growing up together with, as bigger fish are always going to be at least at the back of their minds a bit suspicious of your intentions - are you here just to target them for votes?

I remember more often than not I was deliberately NOT commenting on @Rok-Sivante posts even though I would have had a lot to say, just not to creep him out and make him feel like I'm targeting him, because a lot of small fish were doing exactly that. I for one was just really enjoying the kind of content he was creating.

Luckily for me, in the midst of all of that noise he has eventually noticed a person behind that pesky, persistent tiny red-fish, so I no longer have to worry about freaking him out with my comments. ^^

..Or like you just following me, also feels icky - oh, a pitty-follow.. I don't need that! xD I am by no means trying to complain here, I'm just a tiny fish voicing her observations, journey and loss of "my crowd". Natural selection has done its thing, and maybe I'm just slightly cautious in trying to find a new crowd, lest the same destiny befalls them too..

Hugs and Coffee,
~Josie~

I think you're overthinking it a little xD What's the worst that can happen by commenting on a bigger account? :D
I hope over time you'll feel more comfortable in general ^^
Good luck!

..mm.. well, it's more intricate than that.
I'm not overthinking. I might be overfeeling.. and overly sensitive to unspoken borders/boundaries in people's energies. I am also very perceptive of when people are being genuine and when they are "fake-kind", or even when they are bulshitting themselves. I have zero interest in bulldozing someone over just for some arbitrary "gain for myself", as I know from experience how draining that can be on the recipients' end.

It's not about "What's the worst that can happen by commenting on a bigger account? :D" but more about if I make the other person feel uncomfortable, drained and like I'm leaching on them or on the contrary, that I'm someone that can bring about some sort of value - maybe not with my dust upvotes, but maybe in a whole different manner.

The fact that our society has been "normalized" in people bulldozing one another over with their energies, that's a whole subject on its own one would have to take a separate deep dive in. ;)


Hugs and Coffee,
~Josie~

Ahh that makes more sense and I agree! (Am also sensitive, admittedly I find text energy harder to sense than in person) Which is why I at least try to be clear with what I'm saying usually.
Aww based on your energy I doubt you'd drain someone, likely opposite :)

Yeah, but the power dynamics are still a lot different than just having a school of peers that you're more naturally growing up together with

Yeah it's not like school where you are same age, similar 'level', but we do have one thing in comment - we are all here :)

Or like you just following me, also feels icky - oh, a pity-follow.

ha :) Well you are a new face to me, here commenting with some interesting points on my blog. This is how you get followed!

Pity follows don't exist! Pity upvotes on the other hand.... 😂

Awwww... I wish you had commented more, now that I know that.

You at the very top in my favorite books. I LOVE your comments. They always make my day. 🥰

aww, stahp it you! ^^ xD

Yeah I think some of those "active" accounts maybe post once a month or so, just to test the waters. SO maybe the stats are skewed a bit and it's not so bad ^^