Truth That Informed My Decision

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The Truth, they say, is always bitter; I once heard something extra attached to this statement: "The truth is temporarily bitter but permanently liberating". Does this sound right, is it even 'true'? Well, for me, I think it's the truth that is heard and corrections made that liberate permanently.

Has there been a time someone told you a painful truth about yourself? What was it, and how did it make you feel?

Growing up, even up till now, I usually give anyone I meet the benefit of the doubt; I don't just distrust you; I usually feel like everyone knows what is good and has no reason to do otherwise. Yeah I, expect people to do the right things because they're decent human beings.

This particular way of reasoning almost landed me in trouble. There were times when people came with cooked-up stories about what they were going through, but I couldn't see through them; I just believed they were really through so much and went out of my way to help in the ways I could. Only to discover that the person made the whole thing up just to reap me off.

I'm an empath, I feel the pain of people, and what saddens me the most is not being able to help out, because try as you may, you can't help everyone you come across who has one challenge or another, because some of those challenges might even be bigger than you, so you just do what you can and pray that they get the much-needed help they desire.

One time in college a close friend came to visit me and I saw she had a long face, I asked her what the matter was, and she said that she hadn't paid her school fees because the account where her parents sent the money for her school fees got blocked because of some issues, and she had gone to the bank to resolve the issue but she can only access the account after three business days, and it was a Thursday, meaning she would only be able to access the money by Tuesday the next week, and school fee payment was ending by Monday the next week.

“So what will you do now?” I asked her out of concern and she began to cry that she didn't know what to do; I consoled her and told her not to cry anymore and that I would see what I could do. I had some money with me, but that alone would not be enough, so I asked around from some of my guys and I was able to get the full amount, I gave her the money, but not before letting her know that the whole sum wasn't my money that I had collected it from some friends and would return it to them. Emphatically told her “As soon as you sort out your account issues please kindly send it back to me”.

She was so happy and kept on thanking me and assuring me that I would get the money as soon as possible. She was able to pay for the school fees, after that I didn't hear from her again, the first week passed and I thought to let her be at first, the second passed and it was almost getting to the third week when I called her but she didn't pick up, it was after some days that she picked, and was begging that I give her some time as she didn't have money in her account as she had told me; she just wanted to find a way to get the money as quickly as possible.

I had to run around to get the part of the money that I got from other friends as they were disturbing me already, I felt really bad as I was being disturbed for money I didn't even spend, at last I was able to pay off the debt.
She finally able to pay the money, but it was after a lot calls and pleas.

This incident wasn't the first; it happened so many times while in school; there was a day my sister outrightly told me, "Elfreda, don't you ever learn? What is your problem? Haven't you had enough of borrowing people's money and then struggling to get it back? "

I was offended by how she spoke to me, but she was right; I kept repeating a bad mistake, and it was always backfiring. I had to sit down, ask myself some questions, and also make some decisions that I promised myself to live by. So yeah, when my sister was telling me the truth, it felt harsh, but it helped me make certain decisions in my life that are helping me even now.

I decided not lend anyone again, but rather support you if you're in need and you meet me, this has really been helping me a lot.

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