THE IMPERFECT ME DEALING WITH OTHERS WITH SAME ATTRIBUTES.

This is like telling you who I am.

When I am being asked by some people to tell them who I am, it feels like a freezing question, that's how I feel at that moment, not because I can't say who I am, of course it has little or nothing to do with my skills, level of education or achievements attained so far. I feel like it is better for the person to study or learn who I am, but when my actions are misunderstood or misinterpreted, then I have no other option but to clear the air.

I would not say I know myself 100 percent because I'm not perfect even though I strive to be perfect, but one thing I know is that, I know myself better than any other human would know me because I own my mind, my thoughts and take charge of the things within my control circle to a great extent.

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Winanda loves to observe her environment and the people around her before she can make any move to interact with anyone, but when there is no time for that, she moves with the flow and maintains her conduct. It is not programmed that she behaves that way, there are somethings we can't hide in public, our conduct, communication skills, body language, how we approach and perceive others.

As human beings are not perfect, there are areas of our lives we may not be comfortable with that need a change. I will list a few of mine.

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Areas In My Live I Need To Touch And Balance

• The perfectionism in me: Oh no! This has to be the number one. Anything I do, I love doing is perfectly and at times it becomes a delay for me as I spend more time in doing it than expected. Looking at it from another angle, when it comes to rules, regulations, morals, I'm inclined to doing things rightly at all times. I am aware that anything that is extreme is not good and so I try to time myself and speed up and also relax a bit being flexible where and when necessary. There's an improvement but more work needs to be done here. (Did the perfectionist in me just speak?)

• Extremely compassionate- Displeasing myself at times: This is another one, well at times that means I have not forgotten the word "NO". I have said it in one of my previous posts that my Dad once said to me, "You carry other people's problem like it is yours and leave your own problem, I hope they will be willing to reciprocate. You need to be careful about it". I thought deeply about it, it penetrated and I realised that in the middle of my problems, I take that of others to proffer solution and end up leaving mine for later. In the end it feels like there is a clash of happines and unhappiness within me.

• A mix of fun and strictness: Back in my university days, people told me I was complex and difficult to read, while some thought I was proud because I acted differently (I still do). I have in mind that no matter how fun I am to be with, there are boundaries which I believe everyone is aware of and should respect people's boundaries, right from topic of discussion down to actions. I could be playful but still maintain my conduct and would not find funny any misconduct around me, if I have to give a warning and it still seems like a joke, then I take my leave. If the person receives the warning and is remorseful, few seconds is enough for me to spring out of that space of unhappiness, but the weight of misconduct determines the continuity of communication between the person and I.

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Dealing With Others With Similar Attributes

When I find myself in the midst of those in this category, a part of me want to feel good that it's normal and I'm on the right track, another part of me pinches me to remind me of what needs to be done. I use the opportunity to render some advice and words of encouragement to make them feel that they are not alone and there could be a balance to live the best life and communicate with others. Some people feel that being extremely compassionate is not good, well, I believe anything that is extreme should be reduced to a balance.

We could extremely display our good sides or bad sides, depending on our mood or emotions and at times we can have it balanced when in control. The most important thing is to figure out what is not right or balanced in our lives and work towards becoming better and improving our communication with others.

Have you heard the saying, "You can't change an adult" or "It is difficult for an adult to change?"** It may be difficult for an adult to change, but it is highly possible for an adult to change positively and become a better version of himself/herself.

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Did I just tell you who I am? I doubt. Maybe you should get close to figure out. 😁

This is my response to the prompt for the Thinker's Corner Contest April edition initiated by @kenechukwu97

Do you know yourself well enough? What are the things that bother you about the way you live your life? How do you feel when dealing with people that have those same attributes?

Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog. I would love to hear from you in the comment and if you enjoyed reading this post or learned something from it, stay connected for more.

Love from @winanda ❤️

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SEE YOU SOON IN MY NEXT BLOG.

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About Winanda

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