Fire Under Pressure

in LeoFinance2 years ago

With Smallsteps still in hospital and only one parent allowed to stay overnight, I have been at home alone, but it isn't exactly a holiday, as there are still things that have to be done, regardless of how little I want to do them. With the electrician and the plumber coming Monday, there are a thousand and one tasks to be accomplished prior and of course, I am still trying to get the majority of my additional work done in time for the end of quarter to get the bonus. If there is one thing I have learned since Smallsteps was born, it is,

Make money whenever possible.

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That sounds like a bad position, but I didn't say, make money however possible. There are plenty of things I will not do, even if I would get paid well for them, however, in a general sense, I will do many things and don't really think there are any jobs beneath me. I also don't give a shit about titles, which are also currently going through a strong period of inflation, as people seem to be willing to trade income for the name on their LinkedIn profile.

Call me what you want.

It doesn't really matter to me, as relative to what I have been called for no pay in my life, it probably can't get any worse. But, one thing I do expect from employers is fair salary and expectations. I am lucky for the most part, as I have managed to negotiate what I consider as fair, yet this is based on my past experience, so might not be adequate.

For example, there is a different salary hierarchy across departments and having moved from one organization into the Sales organization, there are changes. However, I am not quota carrying, so while I help enable sales, I don't sell anything, I don't make any direct money for the company. This doesn't mean I work less and in many cases, I work a fair bit more than others, but I also don't have to have the constant pressure for sales performance, which can be quite stressful.

I have come across quite a few people over the years who were attracted by the salary potential of sales, but quickly found that it wasn't enough of a motivation in order to learn how to cope under pressure. And, it is a learning thing, for those who understand enough that managing stress is a trainable skill and the greater the skill, the more potential there is for success. It isn't about being unmoving under pressure, rather, it is about being able to continue moving and moving well.

Stress can affect us in many ways and is similar to being very tired or under the influence of alcohol, where our mental acuity drops and we lose cognitive function. Obviously, the moments when challenge is causing stress, are not the moments in order to practice learning stress management, they are the moments where you want the default behavior to be effective stress management.

To do this requires investing, where the ROI is the increased ability to cope, which comes with the increased ability to perform - take on additional tasks and become someone considered reliable.

Trusted.

It is very difficult to trust people who have low stress management skills, because they are far more likely to react not only erratically, but also more dangerously or negatively. Rarely does someone reacting when they are highly stressed, act well.

Look at it this way, many people can't even manage their emotions when lunch was postponed a couple hours, where they become irritable and angry, and make rash decisions. Under pressure, people can become far more unpredictable and act more like wild animals corned with only one way to escape. And, once they crack and show their true instincts, it is very, very hard to win back trust. It is like domestic abuse,

If they did it once...

I talk a lot about work processes and the psychology around it, because despite people's aversion to having to work, it really is the most basic way to earn an income and also, expand the income. Work isn't the enemy and the better one gets at the processes surrounding it, the more value they are able to generate through it, and therefore, the more ability they have to pick and choose the future, including what to do with earnings so that "have to work" turns into wanted work.

Becoming skilled is an investment, but being skilled gets zero return unless those skills can be turned into value generative activities. It is very much like the misunderstanding of the phrase "knowledge is power" - it is not true. Holding knowledge isn't enough, the way that knowledge is used is what has power.

Work skills are the same in this respect, you can think you have all the skill in the world (or knowledge), but if no one is willing to hire or listen to you, what is the monetary value in it? This comes down to various gateways of trust and the "untrusted" lose access to the network of current and potential value.

The best investment one can make is into their own education, but what should always be remembered is that the value comes from the application of the skills, meaning that the head and hands have to move, they have to act - they cannot lay dormant. Nor can they break under pressure, because a tool that breaks when it has a task to do, *is useless.

Much like the fire extinguisher in the picture - it might offer the sense of safety to have it visible, but in the event of a fire - you want to hope that it is going to be able to perform under pressure.

Taraz
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The difference between having a weapon and using it when necessary is vast. When the right timing is not available, the weapon, no matter how powerful, is rendered practically useless. This is very similar to your "knowledge is power" explanation.

As people try to acquire skills, it is critical that they be able to convert their time and resources into value-generating activities. This is why we create: to be able to profit.

Speaking of working under pressure, it is a skill that can be learned and is extremely valuable, if not necessary. I believe it is because I know I prefer to make the best decisions whenever possible, especially when under duress. I don't want to look back and realize I could have made a much better decision in that situation.

When the right timing is not available, the weapon, no matter how powerful, is rendered practically useless.

That is a nice metaphor too - thanks!

I prefer to make the best decisions whenever possible, especially when under duress.

Exactly. Generally at these times, good decisions are the way out - bad decisions ramp up the pressure.

Contrary to the popular belief, “who you know” won’t get you to where you want to be.

It is “who knows you” that makes the difference.

Knowledge, skills, experience, they all come with hard work and time, and get you prepared for when the opportunity present itself. They are expected and it is difficult to “sell” and “demonstrate” these attributes to a stranger, especially when competing for high positions.

It is with the right attitude and EQ, you grow the portfolio of “who knows you” in order to increase the probability of capturing the next good opportunity.

It is “who knows you” that makes the difference.

A very salient point. I like it a lot!

And what you speak about is something I have written about before in regards to the company I work for. Probably about 70% of the employees have been recommended for the position from internals. This isn't cronyism - it is about trust that runs along several lines. People have to be sure before recommending, because it is going to affect their network.

Call me what you want.

Job titles are often a joke, sometimes explicitly so. Back in the nineties, the graphic design/marketing firm I worked I worked at was going to have business cards printed so I asked my boss what I should list my job title as and he said “whatever you want” so I did:

One-Eyed Jack of All Trades

It was actually accurate in that I’m blind in one eye and my work there included administering the network, Mac art production, typography, proofreading, hand-coding HTML, writing copy, and whatever else was thrown at me.

:D

"Make it descriptive"

From what I understand, the titles are more sought over in the US than in Finland - but in Germany, there is also a very strong culture of "important titles" - they love to list all their degrees and if you have a PhD, the door is open.

I didn't know you were blind in one eye.

I didn't know you were blind in one eye.

I was born with a disconnected retina in my left eye. Easily fixed in infants now with laser surgery, not so much in the mid-fifties. Now, my left eye is a remarkably real-looking prosthetic; maybe some day I’ll get an upgrade.

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One thing I do expect from employers is fair salary and expectations.

I think this situation has turned into a fair salary increase expectation during the inflation period. I don't care the title either, however when it is about salary or increase, the title matters here.

I don't care the title either, however when it is about salary or increase, the title matters here.

Yes - and this is what most people are thinking about as well, as it affects their next jobs also.

Hi Taraz,

Am sorry to hear about smallsteps and wish her speedy recovery.

I admire the way you keep forging on with your responsibilities in a logical manner. You certainly are performing the role of a father and husband quite well

If there is nothing else that can be done in one area, the best is to do what can be done in another. :)

Much like the fire extinguisher in the picture - it might offer the sense of safety to have it visible, but in the event of a fire - you want to hope that it is going to be able to perform under pressure.

and that you remember how to use it under pressure. Is it really the right tool for the job? Whats on Fire, the stove? the wastebasket? the TV? Oil, paper, and electricity, not all fire extinguishers work on the same type of fire.

All the skills in the world are useless if you crack and can not use them.

I hope all is going well for smallsteps. It must be very very hard for you to be at home with her in the hospital, and waiting to hear all is okay.

and that you remember how to use it under pressure. Is it really the right tool for the job?

Precisely! Just to use one, other skills are required, or it can make the problem worse.

Smallsteps is doing better now, thanks for asking. Hopefully she can come home soon, if there are no other complications.

I don't know how parents do it, I never had a child, but having one in a hospital, I think, would be very very hard on me. Glad you and the misses are holding up well enough.

Horrible to hear smallsteps has gotten worse :(

All the best to you and the fam mate.

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She is responding to treatment at least now - so that is good. Hopefully if it continues, she can come home.

What's going on with smallsteps? I read your last post on this, but an update would be welcome. I can't imagine you alone.

She is still in hospital and my wife is staying there with her. Only one parent at a time and since I don't speak Finnish well enough for some things and some might not speak English - it falls on her. Though, it is probably the better choice.

Smallsteps is doing okay now, but they are investigating the reasons for the issues. Hopefully she can come home soon.

It's awful when your child is mysteriously sick. May she return home very soon!

Ack I knew small was sick but somehow managed to miss that she was in hospital D: How's things going?

people seem to be willing to trade income for the name on their LinkedIn profile

Wat o_O

She's doing better thanks :) Hopefully it continues down this path and she can leave the hospital. Stuck in a room at the moment and for a six year old, that might be the biggest torture.

LinkedIn is where headhunters find new targets - they often search through titles.

It sucks enough for an adult, much worse for a kid!

I've been headhunted at LI before back when I was on it, I have no idea what (besides "Drupal" which I had somewhere) they were looking for though. What are you paying for with the titles? o_O

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I would agree with you, as we have to 'make money' in order to make it through these horrid, dark times.

It's a tough thing to perform as you need to under pressure and I understand that not everyone can do so. It doesn't matter how good you are unless you can though as most people tend to look at the results

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