There’s similar levels of problems with being “private” and “oversharing”. Major problem with the former is that things that are actually problems don’t get aired, recognised and resolved because “privacy” (and I am otherwise pretty big on at least other aspects of privacy), and that’s how a lot of people can just continue being worthless dirt bags for way too long.

Major problems with the latter are mostly along the lines of not thinking about how information can be used once it’s “out there” (the person you told might tell one of their trusted people who might tell one of their trusted people who might…, maybe someone overheard and decided to blackmail or otherwise be an asshat about it) or the person dumped on may not be mentally or emotionally capable of handling the information they’ve suddenly received.

Like with everything else I think details are situational and it’s probably not the best idea being all the way one way or the other 😆