Bravo! I so agree with you and I am a mother lol. A hug from my son is all I ever want and I get that on a near daily basis. I am considered poor by many standards and yet I want for nothing, am entirely happy and feel richer than most folks I know.
Some holidays are created to make all good consumers rush out and spend their hard earned money on frivolous things. Woe to those who choose not to participate as society has decreed that you are less than human if you do not provide the appropriate gifty on the appropriate day.
Love your family every day, not just on the day set aside for their recognition. You're doing just fine
Having a family do anything special, is special enough I think. I reckon my wife was most happy that she woke up and I had cleaned the bathroom (like a real proper clean) during the night while she was asleep.
I feel that a lot of the events now have to be instagrammable - if they aren't worth the picture and post, it was a failure.
Effort put forth is so much more valuable than money spent. Like you say, the photo ops are tops on some folks list lol.
That being said, you are a true keeper and I bet your wife knows your worth!