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I never have the right words at these times, but I guess that at times like these, words don't matter that much. My father had a good life in many ways and passed away as a good man - someone other men would be lucky to be. A good life doesn't mean an easy life and it could be that an easy life is rarely good. I believe we need the pain to understand and be grateful for the things we get to enjoy and I think that without pain, we might never struggle to improve, to strive for some kind of better experience - for ourselves or for others.

My dad did strive for better and a lot of his life was spent improving the experience of those he came in contact with, while he himself went without - and I don't think those he helped realised the burdens he shouldered in silence. He did express himself through his art however and I think that those around the world who have a piece of his work, also have a piece of him, the man, not the artist. They might have more than they will ever know; we probably all hold more than we know.

From this point on, my dad is a memory to those who he has affected in life, but for his family, his children and grandchildren, he is also a part of us that can never be forgotten and is impossible to extract - he is core to who we are physically and our individual personalities. In many ways we his children represent his art, an eclectic range of styles and skills that cross over mediums and paint outside the edges.

My father didn't frame his work, he painted the entire canvas to the wall, as it gave the sense of continuance and the work was a perspective he provided, but there is always more to the story, more off frame. He invited the audience to build and complete their story from where he left them space to grow.

This is where we are now, at the end of the edge of the story we walked with him and the future space to grow is ours to paint.



Rest in Peace - Dad
22.6.1936 - 1.7.2020
I will miss you.


Taraz

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My condolences. You have told us that your father was generous with his time and willing to help others. Those qualities are have become increasingly rare.

If we all had more of them, the world would be a better place.

Thanks. People talk about role models and he was definitely one for many people throughout his life.

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So sorry for your loss Taraz and the family! They may not be around anymore, but I think we forever carry them with us everywhere we go and through everything we experience.

Thanks M. He definitely made an impact on those around him and for the vast majority, it was well into the positive. I will have a lot of good memories to carry.

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condolences

wish peace and comfort for all family members

Appreciated mate.

He invited the audience to build and complete their story from where he left them space to grow.

I know you didn't want to put any visual representation in this post to depict your private homage to your dad. But having seen much of his work according to what you have already shared with us before. Now let me try to fill that blank canvas with some Shadowdance A/V as my own tribute to those as your dad who always had the skills to tell stories creating marvels with their own hands.

I think that part of what is missing in the world today is more people using their hands to build the story - not enough real action.

Yep! seems like nowadays there are already too much easy swiping, 1click tech filters, digital plugins, shortcut widgets and whatnot as to people be willing now to tell stories which will get their hands dirty in some way through the process.

A world of user experience owned by others.

My deepest sympathy brother... Thanks be unto God for the temporary life that he gave. In the finals, the judgment day, you will see him again. He is just sleeping and no pain. Soon we will be with him too... Let us do our part on earth by doing good deeds to please God.

Thanks, your positive thoughts are welcome.

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Taraz, as you rightly say at a time like this the right words are incredibly difficult to get a hold of but the ones you chose, were used incredibly. As a testament to the man you called Dad, they paint a wonderful picture he would have been proud to hear I'm sure. You used a phrase that struck me when I read a piece Galen wrote a few days ago.

My father had a good life in many ways and passed away as a good man - someone other men would be lucky to be.

That observation occurred to me too, how utterly wonderful to be spoken about sincerely in such a way by ones own children, I hope I ever earn that honour. I am sure your Dad would never have claimed perfection, that does not sound like his character at all, I am certain you would never claim it on his behalf either, but the picture you paint is of a Father I would very much like to have had myself and I would certainly love to be.

In many ways we his children represent his art, an eclectic range of styles and skills that cross over mediums and paint outside the edges.

As an analogy that is a beautiful and empowering one. I am sure he considered you his greatest creations too, a true representation to the world of his greatest message. Your Dad sounds in many ways like he was forged in adversity, I often believe that is a hard but rewarding teacher and the single greatest way to form amazing qualities yet still be tempered with humility.

This solid, artist and man, may appear to have left but I am sure he has not, he is visible to anyone who should choose to see it in the words, deeds and qualities of those he raised and will be forevermore. This in addition to the influence of your Mum who I am certain will also be incredibly close in your thoughts right now has seemingly raised incredible adults with a range of quality, compassion and integrity that will enrich the future and would be a source of immense pride to them both.

Thinking of you and yours throughout this difficult period. Much love and the very best wishes to you all.

Sorry I was not able to share these thoughts more succinctly, I did try. Please don't worry about replying my friend.

I hope I ever earn that honour.

Me too. He had flaws like we all do, but he worked hard in other areas so that they weren't an issue. I can't remember someone who disliked my father, there was something attractive about his sincerity that disarmed people.

Thinking of you and yours throughout this difficult period. Much love and the very best wishes to you all.

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Yes. I've always believed that integrity and sincerity are qualities that are indeed incredibly attractive. I detest the mantra that nice guys finish last, I understand the logic but often people see what they expect to see.

The word community encapsulates so many different things and is difficult to quantify or even explain to someone who doesn't get it. I think those fully immersed in the idea, experience a 'one of our own' kind of empathy when they read about people experiencing a tough time.

It's heartening you are the kind of person to see and more importantly feel the meaning that is being conveyed. I hope that many opportunities to smile still present themselves going forward my friend.

In my experience, nice guys only finish last in some areas of life, often on the material side of things. When it comes to quality of life, not living standards, it might be a different scenario.

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Sorry for your loss! I could not have many memories of my dad because I lost him when I was 12. I always wished I have things to say about him. I know he was a good man. As life made it, we got to continue living.

Thanks.

That must have been hard to lose him so young- Hopefully you have come to terms with it and moved on to live a good life yourself.

Yes, I adopted the popular saying- "Life goes on". I just hope he smiles at the kind of man I am.

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'My father didn't frame his work, he painted the entire canvas to the wall, as it gave the sense of continuance and the work was a perspective he provided, but there is always more to the story, more off frame. He invited the audience to build and complete their story from where he left them space to grow.'

Wonderfully expressed. And completely in line with how you describe him.
I can only imagine the grief.
Wish you and yours strength mate.

Thank you very much, it really is appreciated. It is a difficult as expected, but he lived a very good life.

In many ways we his children represent his art, an eclectic range of styles and skills that cross over mediums and paint outside the edges.

That's a lovely thought to carry.

My best wishes to the family, may he rest in peace.

I think he did a pretty good job as a father, though not necessarily a traditional one.

Thanks for taking the time.

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Thank you @galenkp for doing what you have and what you will. We are grateful.

I know, and I would have done more should it have been required. We will send him on and then carry his memories, as it should be.

You did enough and I know he appreciated it a lot.

Missing him is the best present. Rest in Peace.

He will be missed by many.

My sincerest condolences to you and your family, @tarazkp.

Thank you, it is appreciated.

My condolences to you.. RIP to your dad

Thank you.

my sincere condolences to you and the family @tarazkp .. May he rest in eternal peace

Thanks mate.

Sorry to hear about this. I hope you get a chance to visit your family over there soon.

It will be a while, but I hope that one day it will be possible.

I imagine it will be easy to travel in a year or so...I really hope so anyway.

My brother was meant to arrive here next week, it is probably better that things were cancelled in this case. For us, it is always a question of money to travel so far as we have to be away from work unpaid as well, since we can pretty much only travel in the Australian summer, which is Finnish winter without holidays. Unfortunately here, there isn't always the flexibility and holidays are nearly always summer holidays. But, we have to go at some point - my wife and daughter has never been.

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I remember him mentioning the trip and it being cancelled.
I have the same issue with needing a lot of time, being a 15-hour flight. Going for anything less than 2 weeks is awful. And now with increased airfare price and probably quarantine and medical checks at both ends, no thanks. The only people travelling are VIPs who seem to be immune from regulations.

Fortunately, my wife's job is flexible and I get a lot of vacation at my own which is why I don't want to take another job even though I could probably get paid better. Oh well, too many choices.

Yeah it is a challenge now. A big issue for us is that my family are also spread through Australia, which isn't a small country. That and I have a business that doesn't run itself... come on Hive...:)

My sister flew there as fast as she could, but arrived a few hours too late unfortunately. I feel terrible for her. She is now quarantined with permission to attend the funeral and cemetery - and that's it.

It will be interesting to see what happens a year down the track from now in regard to travel and pricing. I am guessing that the prices will go up.

Australia is a big place. Fortunately, my family in Canada is spread out within about 5 hours drive of the Toronto airport. My family in Korea is spread out within a 5 hours drive of Seoul...but some live about as far as you can get from Seoul without leaving the country.

My grandfather died 5 days before I was scheduled to fly to Canada to see him. It would have been my first time seeing him in just under 2 years. I did get to go to his funeral though since he was cremated it was easy to delay a few days longer than usual ~ that and he happened to die on the day I had my wedding ceremony in Korea, and I was headed to Canada to have one there, so they wanted to avoid messing with it more than necessary.

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I am so sorry for you and yours...Rest in peace

Appreciated mate.

My condolences to you and yours old friend. May your dad rest peacefully.

Thanks Tez. He was a person who didn't rest much in life, so perhaps in death he will have the space for himself.

Definitely. No soul as generous as he was with himself and his time deserves anything less than eternal peace!

The world is a little emptier today, but it will refill in time.

True. One day at a time as the ache turns into good memories 🧡

My deep condolences to you,@galenkp, and your family brother.
May god give you both the power to power through!

Much love for you guys! <3

Thank you very much, your thoughts are appreciated

You're welcome mate! <3

My condolences to you and your family, I know you will all miss him.

Thanks mate and yes, we will. People like him are rare in this world at the best of times, let alone the worst.

My condolences...

A good life doesn't mean an easy life and it could be that an easy life is rarely good.

It's time for you to start painting a new picture ...

Thanks for your words. I agree. I could do with a little easy for a bit - but I don't think I am going to get that chance anytime soon. But, I can add a little more good.

May he rest in peace! Sorry about the loss.

Thank you for your thoughts.

Deeply sorry for your loss. A lot of people are here for you - it is something.

Thanks and it has been comforting to read the comments. It is definitely something.

My condolences to you and your family.

Thank you mate

Sorry for your loss,may his soul be at peace .

If anyone deserves it, he does.

That is beautifully written. He seemed to be a wonderful soul, must be happy up there. may he rest in peace. god bless the departed soul and my heartfelt condolences to the family.

Thank you for taking the time to comment and he really was a good person - I am lucky to call him dad.

Beautifully written. I guess without pain we wouldn't exactly know what joy is. My condolences

Thanks. Pain and joy are sides of the same coin perhaps.

Wow! Can't believe this....i just finished commenting on him in your previous post. My sincere to you and your family. I pray God give you the strength to pull through this period.

Thanks, it is appreciated.

Your father will now paint a new wall and his unfulfilled dreams as a subject.

Surely he is already starting a beautiful new colorful journey.

One of the things he was incredible at, was mixing colours. I think he will enjoy the journey.

Somehow he continues to live through what he has left behind. The miracle of talent and memories add value to a presence which, despite of no physicality, continues to exist.

despite of no physicality, continues to exist.

I think this is something we should all remember, our actions live on in many people and in many way. thanks for adding your thoughts.

Sure, we should all remember that. Welcome😊

Respects & Condolences.

Thanks mate.

I’m sorry for your loss. A full life and a loving family.

I appreciate you taking the time here. He was a good man.

A man that leaves a trail for others to explore different possibilities. The great heart of one who wants to help others to grow. His good memories will last within the hearts of others.

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It has been interesting to read some of the words of his past students. I don't even know where they heard the news from.

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May he rest in peace.
Om Shanti.

Thanks for your thoughts.

My condolences and wishing you gracious thoughts during this trying time.

Thanks mate.

Words mean nothing really at a time like this. Condolences to all of you as it is never an easy time. You have good memories and recollections which is what counts now. Galen and you were lucky to have such a great dad.

We were lucky indeed in many ways. Thanks for your thoughts.

My most sincere condolences, @tarazkp.

Thanks mate.

Sorry to hear about your dad taraz, you and your family are in my thoughts

Thanks Jason, it is appreciated.

My condolences dear friend @tarazkp
When a loved one leaves us, only the body does, his spirit continues among us, his good actions will be remembered forever by those who had the pleasure of sharing pleasant moments with him.

Thanks. My dad believed in an afterlife and if he was right, then he will be fine wherever he ends up.

no doubt my dear friend @tarazkp, I also believe in a second life and I hope to meet all my loved ones

I'm sorry for your loss :(
May memories of him live on

Thanks. He will be remembered for some time to come by many.

We are sorry to hear about the passing of your father. Did your father pass away as on 1.7.2020? I miss my father too. He has passed away in 2004. And the reason was cancer.

Yes, it was late last night the local time in Australia. My mother died in 2004 from cancer also - a terrible disease. Sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss, my good friend.
I know my words will not heal your pain, however, all of us at HIVE are here for you today.

Thank you. It is much appreciated.

I am very sorry for your loss. You will always have your precious memories of him.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal
Love leaves a memory nobody can steal.

Thinking of you and your family in this difficult time.

That is a lovely quote, thank you!

Sincere condolences to you, @galenkp and your families on your sad loss. Any chance of seeing some of your Dad's artwork in Hive, sometime in the future?

Thanks Trudee. Yeah, Galen has put some up around the place, but I actually don't have any here to show. There are some paintings waiting for me, but it is so expensive to ship them that I haven't been able to yet. I am hoping one day soon I can.

He painted from a child and had to paint in secret as his father disapproved. He was getting paid painting murals for movie openings at 12 years of age, was a fully qualified and working high school teacher at 16. He has crossed many styles. Hopefully one day, there will be more of his work available.

 4 years ago  

Damn man! I just realized y'all do the date backwards from us. I commented on Galen's post earlier and thought it was back in January. I didn't realize it was so recently. I was my dad's caretaker for many years before he passed so this really just hit me in a different way than this morning. I remembered what a life your dad must have led from much of what you and your brother have shared from time to time. The WW2 story of the Brits getting run off and the Japanese taking the island always stuck with me. I never knew your dad and recall how these last years have been difficult for you all. I vicariously missed my dad through yours in the past and I know your pops would be proud to leave his legacy with his children. If you and Galen are any indicator of what a great man he was then that says a great deal of the blessing he must have been to all that knew him truly. My heart and prayers are with you and your families. One thing that helped me manage my grief in bereaving my dad was considering what his gain was as opposed to my loss. Everyone meant well saying "Sorry for your loss." It was like a knife every time i heard those words. My dad suffered in his last years and being happy for his gain was more in line with how i appreciated the gravity of things. My dad gained the peace i had wished for him for a very long time. I hope the potential opportunity to use that flip of the script may be helpful. Love you guys man.

D/M/Y smallest to largest - the rest of the world makes sense ;)

It was definitely the best thing for him to go and I much prefer to lose him than him be in any more pain than he must. The last years took their toll and I am glad that Galen was there to care for him. When it comes to the loss of his life as someone I care deeply about, I don't feel it as a loss in the same sense as many perhaps as I see that a lot of don't actually live that much as we spend our time trying to get somewhere else. He lived a life.

 4 years ago  

I remember some of the health issues that he was enduring for a while and i know exactly how you feel about letting them go to that peace. I didn't want to say too much so as not to reveal anything that wasn't needed to be out for everyone to know all the details. I recall how it had been difficult for you to be there and the family to be scattered. I am glad that you have the outlook that you do. It will make the grieving process go much smoother. For me the grief comes in waves having lost my daughter and dad. I have managed fairly well. You are right... the World does make sense and us 'Mericans do things the hard way. I have my phone on C so i can get a sense of what it's really like. We were around 34 but felt like almost 40 today here in Texas. Day Month Year... they taught me that in French class but i guess i didn't pay enough attention! Take care brother. Holler at me if you need to talk or anything browski. =)

Very sorry for your loss. It's been 3 years since my dad died, but I still wake up from dreams where he's with me, and it's always a bittersweet experience.

Thank you, it is appreciated. I am looking forward to having dreams with him, but quite unsure how I will feel after - bittersweet is probable. Death is a strange experience all around.

I am sure that the tools of painting the life right have been nicely given by him to all of you and that is the greatest legacy of them all. My good wishes to all the family now.

We bumble along, but we do okay on the way :)

My deepest condolences buddy, I know from chatting with Galen it has been a difficult time for you all, from what I have read in previous posts your father seemed a special fella and it looks like some of it rubbed off on you guys. I always tell the wife who lost her mother way too young to a road traffic accident that "good memories keep good people alive".
My thoughts are with you all at this time, Peace Bro.

Thanks mate. There are plenty of memories to keep him alive for a long time to come.

Good to hear, I spoke to Galen earlier and he said some great things about him, you have been lucky to have a fine example to set you on your way and build upon.
My best wishes to you and yours, stay positive my friend.

My condolences

Thank you.

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