Not going to spill too many beans atm, but the true blessing in disguise is soon to come. And even if it had escalated I would never had sent you guys away like that, but luckily you arrived when she was no longer in charge (although she saw that differently). I was very doubtful about sending Sophia away, I almost had said F U to Stephie, but it was just too early I was still not ready to give up fighting at that moment.
Three months later and it would have been a whole different story
Oh yeah she definitely felt she could control everything. It didn't take long for us to see that though. If there was no kid involved I'd almost say you should have left with Sofia to a hotel even if just for a night, to show Stephie she could F-O, but that would have made it worse for everyone..
I can't even imagine how exhausting it must have been for you all that time being locked in that bedroom (I can still see the room where that was lol, I remember that house well) and then not being allowed to leave as well as having to work etc.. A true bloodsucker ;)
I do wonder is she happy now? That you know? Does she have a good behaving toy boy that does what she says? :)
Well funny you ask, the thing is I can not tell you everything without ruining the storyline, what I can say is that she met an American guy probably 18 months ago. She went there for a couple of months leaving Kyrian in Spain he was 16 at that time. Kyrian spend 3 weeks around x mas with us, then some weeks alone with frequent visits by his grandma who stayed a couple of days every week. And the lady across the street was keeping an eye on him.
Still it made him fail school that year. She went again to the US that summer leaving Kyrian with her dad for months and with me for weeks.
The third time she went was last October and she had arranged that Kyrian would come with her. He had do the year at school for a second time and could re take some exams when he would get back after 3 months, I needed to sign for him leaving to the US, and I signed an okay with a holiday note.
Now guess what, 6 months later they are still in the US, she married the guy and they are hoping to get a green card. Then last week Kyrian texted me:
Dad can you help me?
To get the greencard I need a international or english divorce declartion. And my mom is sick and has a hard time getting that from here.
I really want to come to Spain, but the lawyer said it´s better to remain in the US till that the greencard is in.
So do you have one or can otherwise try to get one and send a scan?
So I was fucked because if I would say no, it was like I did not want to help him come to Spain. But I also knew that this was his mom using him to get something done she should have fixed herself before leaving Spain.
So I was in dubio, but I said if I had one I would surely send it, But I was not going to take care of something his mom should have fixed. That he nor I should be involved in this and that it was up to her to solve the problem.
I did not hear anything since :(
But coming to your point, marrying a guy in the US that you only know fro 18 months and have seen for 6???
I know she is impulsive, but this to me is asking fro trouble again.....
But Kyrian is happy in the US and he had asked me if I would mind him going to live there, and I don´t as long as he is happy. But they lied to me when I signed the note, and I would have wanted him to finish school here and have a plan for him when moving there. Atm it feels like they don´t so I am annoyed about that, but mostly about her trying to span me voor haar karretje, using Kyrian once again.
Is that enough intel on the bitch ;)
Oh my gosh, I did not expect this.. we should catch up in real life more often now that we are near! Djeez, so much info!
When I read about her meeting that guy and leaving Kyrian here several times for longer periods and then you needing to sign that document, I already felt where it was going. I know you would not have been able to prove her intend anyway, so you had little choice I guess, but gosh this b*tch is taking it to the next level.
She probably planned this all along knowing you'd not say no without having hard proof of her intend staying there, my gosh. I'm glad you are taking it well though, these things are enough to drive a person mad. It feels she's now making sure to let you know if you don't help her she will keep Kyrian from contacting you, pff. She's such a great example of what parents that split up shouldn't do. She would be a good one for my ex. Evil meets evil.
You know, Kyrian is happy there you said, he's at an age that soon he can make his own decisions and she's probably using the last tricks she can use to stay in control. But I have the feeling he may come to you within a few years. Maybe just for a holiday, but at least it would be his decision when she can't keep the reigns anymore.
So sad people do this though.. I feel ashamed for women like that. I know the other side myself, but I know very well that it's usually the mother doing this and gets away with it. She's the perfect example. I wish her a lot of stress around the green card (oops, did I say that)
Lol nah you didn´t say that it was us only thinking that.
But indeed I think that at a certain point when Kyrian is independent he will start seeing what happened and how his parents dealt with the situation. Then it´s up to him to draw his true conclusions. I am quite sure she told him, yous ee your dad doesn't even want to help you come to Spain this time.
I would not have minded sending a scan if I had one, itñs not like I don´t want to help out. It´s just that I am no longer there to clean up her mess. And I am sure at some point that will be clear to Kyrian.
We should catch up indeed, especially now you guys have a car but no hurry you are in Spain so we can do it manaña
Manana it is! Are you home? :P
It's true that he's already old enough to see through this, but still messed up. You could make a big fuzz sue her for misleading you, you'd probably win, especially seeing the fact that she left him alone for a while and just left for months several times without him alone would not look good either.
I think it's good you are showing her if she wants to be a big girl and mislead you like this, she should definitely not hold the illusion that you are helping her in any way. She has another guy now, he can do it. Otherwise her dad or wicked mom or sister. Not your marriage, not your problem.