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RE: The Friendzone: A Rant

in #life7 years ago

Amen @jillustrations! I have been thinking a lot about this recently, that's so funny you post this! I see things on my facebook people post about "Girls always pick jerks over nice guys." And I did have a great male friend growing up that has mentioned they wanted to be more than friends and that just wasn't for me. Granted, I did end up with MANY jerks until finally at this point have found someone that is right for me (we're getting married actually! Yikes lol) but you know where my male friend is? No where, any time I was dating someone, he just didn't really want to talk to me, and when HE was dating someone, he DEFINITELY did not want to talk to me.

I always had in the back of my head that I was dating people that turned out to be jerks for karma's sake of not taking a chance and dating my good friend. And I'll be honest, thinking about it, HE was actually a jerk, and thinking about it, most nice guys are nice until you start dating them, ya know.

I have had some actual male friends but for real, that mentality is so annoying. I remember being literally stalked by a guy and I had confided in my male friend, and he was like, "That's horrible." But my female friend, who's like an amazon she's huge haha, she saw my stalker out in public and ripped him a new one and I never heard from my stalker again... To me that's a real friend, so, he wasn't much of friend actually.

Yea, I think it's such a stigma that men can get away with saying "Oh I've been freindzoned, how rude." Instead of people saying, "Wow, you won't be her friend just because she's not interested in you? How rude." It should be that way, not the way it is. I mean, to even give them the opportunity to still be in your life...not only that the friendship even YOU are offering sounds like something people would fight for! Lol That's even more than what some people's family are willing to do for their loved ones.

It's not a "Friendzone" It's a friend, guys need to get that straight instead of making it a derogatory term.

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It's not a "Friendzone" It's a friend

So true.

first of all: CONGRATS! ♡ ♡

Yes.. it's a big problem actually, this thinking that women owe guys something.
I've, in general been lucky I think, with my male friends because I do have a few that I know would absolutely rip a stalker a new one on my behalf XD
But I hear ya... Sadly, I can't even blame a lot of them, it starts in the way boys and girls are brought up, the values they are tought, and sadly, we still have a looong way to go before we come even close to making a dent in "male privilege" :/