Thank you for sharing this experience. It made me think about the phenomenon that for example people that just left the prison tend to do everything to find a way into prison again. Why? Because it's a known and safe environment for them.
I think here is the problem and even I, knowing this, am not immune to this. Solving problems means to get in motion. That is, sometimes, out of the well known comfort zone. And that's why people tend to ask for help and then go on like "nah, it'll solve itself"