Could anger be good?

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Anger. This is a feeling most of us experienced at least one time in the last....week?Maybe for some of you even more recently. Maybe you've been angry just before scrolling down to reach here, reading this post.

Anger is a feeling which consumes you.I have been there. Keeping this feeling is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die, like some wise men said. I have been fascinated by this terrible flaw of the human nature. I wanted to understand more about it, how to control it and how to stay away from angry men/women. On the other side, what is behind this feeling? What can it hide? Is anger more than meets the eye?

In my 2 hours long video I talk about an amazing book written on anger and on how it can actually help us if we channel it right and understand it. The book is called "The Dance of Anger" and it is written by Harriet Lerner. I have found it brilliant. You would be surprised what anger can hide and the way you can use the energy of anger to change your entire life. I wish I would have read this in my anger time days, but I am happy I discovered it now, for a better understanding of the past and greater improvement in the future

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I recommend you taking this book page by page and absorbing it, taking notes. You will more than likely return to it, I am sure I will.

Have a blessed day and toodle loo!

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@creativemary I like to start with this quote "every coin has two sides" it applies on anger also. It have both positive and negative aspects. Positive like when you get angry you take out all your inner feelings out and you feel good. But the negative part is that some people don't like it and you can say whatever you want in anger.

Hey! I understand what you are saying and you are right. The words we say in anger are the worst because we usually don't mean what we say, we hurt the other and we can't take them back. It is refreshing to take it all out..... But with what price? Maybe if the price is to hurt the other and make them suffer, maybe that is a price not worth paying for?

I do agree we need to say what we think. I guess what we need is to learn how to say it in anger in order to still be able to let the other know that, despite us feeling angry, we still love them.

Thanks so much for reading and have a wonderful day!

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@creativemary pleasure is all mine.

Thank you😊

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whispering is a pet peave of mine so I cant use this for anger lol

Hahaha good point! Thank you for stopping by! Have a great day!

What is your accent? :D

Hey! My accent is romanian😁 How does it sound? 🙈

Oh, I wouldn't have guessed that, was thinking south african or something. :D

Uu, interesting😊

A sudden anger causes bad things. A Considering anger,which means channeling something you want to do makes good things.

i think subsizing the sudden anger is really important in this progress...

Have a great day my friend...

Hey! Anger can have really damaging effects. Not channeling it into the right direction can really cause a lot of issues. I think that sudden anger has to be managed as you say. It is usually impulse and it never pays off to act on impulsivity and anger.

It requires a lot of understanding of the self and introspection to tackle with it. To see where does it come from, what is it making someone to do? Anger is a warning sign that something is wrong in the way we process the situation and in the way we are with ourselves and with others.

Thanks so much for reading! Have a great day!

Of course you are right... Anger is really dangerous if it doesn't channel the right place...But if you watch the Karate Kid you know the how the anger channels the right place...:)

Have a great day...

Hey! Hahaha you are totally right with Karate Kid. Well channeled energy. Anger is bad when we take it negatively and point it to the other to hurt them and punish them.

Thanks for reading, have a great day!

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Anger is a form of energy. Any form of energy can do good or bad. It depends on us, how we handle it. It can create or it can destroy.

The reason why most of us get affected by anger in a negative way is because our approach towards it is negative.

Hey! I completely agree with your perspective.Anger is energy. So true. And using any form of energy is done by us and by choice. We always have the possibility to choose our attitude. Managing emotions during an angry moment is a reflection of our self discipline. I believe that the more disciplined and self aware we are, the more we are able to use the energy of emotions in positive ways!

It’s good to know that we think on the same line :)

It definitely is all about changing anger into a more helpful emotion, as goes for all so called 'negative' emotions or lower vibrations. They are only helpful if you manage to pick up on them and work towards a higher frequency.

Have you ever read "The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide" by Esther Hicks? I love it!

P.S. I'm actually almost never angry :<)

I am impressed almost never angry is a great achievement!

I will check out the book, thank you😊

It's a good read. I have a digital version of it and went through it several times. It helped me out quite a lot, although I tend to forget a lot of my 'feel better' tricks due to an overload of information and too much reading hahaha!

Hey! That's very nice! I have found it to be such a good book, especially because there are a lot of misconceptions about anger and angry men/women. If we would take to time to understand what is it behind the anger, we could not only change ourselves for the better, but also the way we perceive our surroundings and our relationships.

Of course that after reading many books it is easy to feel lost between several ideas of several authors. That is why it's nice to once in a while come back to the book and read it again.

For me, this is one of the reasons I love physical books, because I can make notes and return to them whenever I want or feel that an idea bugs me about a certain matter.

Thank you for taking your time to read my post Vincent, I appreciate it😊

Have a great day!

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Hey! That's very nice! I have found it to be such a good book, especially because there are a lot of misconceptions about anger and angry men/women. I

I was talking about the book that I recommended to you ;>)

I love physical books too but since my brother and his girlfriend gifted me a secondhand E-reader two years ago, I'm quite the fan of this machine too. It's small and light weight ( perfect to take on a trip ), impossible to break, its battery lasts a long time and I love that it has no light inside ( unlike all the screens I stare at ).

If I can choose, I still pick 'real' books but the couple of 100 books that are on this little device make it well worth it.

Thank you for taking your time to read my post Vincent, I appreciate it😊

Sure thing and likewise!

P.S. Today, I am literally rewriting and re-digitalizing / editing a printed version of the 100 pages that I wrote last November ( the original 'The Story of Hypersensitivosaurus' )

Big hug,

Vincent

Ooo good luck with your story, I am sure it will come out amazing, just like you! Have a great day Vincent🤗

Thank you for your amazingly kind words

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Oh and one more thing... Content like this really fits in the Natural Medicine community ( where I tend to hang out a lot ) ;<)

Oh thanks for the tip Vincent🤗

Anger can also help in a fight to save your life against a robber or something

True, especially the adrenaline. Fight or run