*Dancing and singing to Rudeboy’s song titled “FIRE FIRE” *
Hello everyone. Finally Saturday night with Zizy has kicked off with this being the first episode of what promises to be an amazing show. Last week, I made an introduction of the show and the love I got was massive such that I’m still basking in the euphoria of it all. Let me quickly use this opportunity to say a very big thank you to all who upvoted, commented and even reesteemed. A special thank you to @eurogee of @euronation for supporting the show with a whooping 4SBD and @amec for showing his love with 1SBD. I am so grateful guys and I promise not to disappoint you all.
Okay now to business, like I said in the introduction post, this show will run in segments and I shall be taking you through them one by one. Sit back, relax, enjoy and don’t touch that screen. It’s going to be a fun ride. Catch ya at the end of it all. One love.
kizzes in jenifa’s voice lol
RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
We had an amazing night together. It started with a candle light dinner and ended with an intimate, passionate sex. The chemistry was tight and the sparks were flying but then he disappeared. What have I done wrong? I have called him. He doesn’t answer. I sent series of text messages but no reply. I wait for 24 hours (that felt like enternity) and I text him again. 24 hours later, I call him again and it’s like he’s vanished into thin air. Like he never existed. What is going on here?
WHY DO MEN RUNAWAY AFTER SEX?
As a lady reading this right now, I am sure you are also asking yourself this question. You meet a really nice guy who is definitely your spec, an answer to your midnight prayers. He spoils you with so much love and adoration. He does all the right things. You tell your girlfriends about him looking like a loved up puppy and then you decide, “I should sleep with him. He is so nice. I feel so comfortable with him”. It was a steamy, passionate, toe-curling, goose-bump filled, crazy, super-dopey sex. Then guess what happens? He stops calling.
At first you feel rejected then you feel used. You don’t feel smart anymore like you don’t have as good a read on guys like you thought you did. You review every little thing that went on with this new guy: every word, every sentence, every text message. You want to figure out exactly what you did wrong in this scenario and why he has disappeared. Honestly…… what a waste of time, energy and self confidence. Stop right there! Make a U-turn on that rejection highway.
Here is the deal; you made the CHOICE to sleep with him. He made the CHOICE not to call you. So he wasn’t who you thought he was and so what? Get over it girlfriend. Shit happens. As a matter of fact, he did you a favour by dropping you off the radar because he is a jerk. Be grateful he showed his true colours pretty early on. You should be happy you found out early enough that all he wanted was sex. You deserve much more.
WHAT DO MEN HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS
I took a survey of why men runaway after sex and I got some amazing but stupid reasons. Time won’t permit me to share them all so I will feature only four.
MALE 1: Well zizymena I don’t know but I would say perhaps her blow job skills was whack. Maybe she was a bad kisser you know how guys think.
ZIZYMENA: hmmm! I never knew guys only call back pornstars.
MALE 2: Girls are too clingy. Just because you have sex with them, they already want something serious leading to marriage.
ZIZYMENA: Does anyone enter a relationship leading to marriage after having sex once? Try again Bro.
MALE 3: To me it was all a game. She was a conquest for me.
ZIZYMENA: Plot twist, you were also a conquest to her.
MALE 4: perhaps the guy didn’t enjoy the sex because if he did he will call back.
ZIZYMENA: Well next time I bang some guy I am going to give him a customer satisfaction survey at the end.
There you have it ladies. They do not have any tangible reason for not calling back. Girls are also guilty of all I have written. Guys if you meet such, now you understand better.
DATING TIPS:
FUN CORNER (Just for Laughs)
Sex in the morning should be mandatory. A perfectly acceptable excuse for being late. “sorry, I was feeling a trifle horny and needed a few orgasms before I could be productive 😀😀” if you know you know.
DEAR ZIZY
source
ANONYMOUS 1: Dear Zizy, please keep me anonymous. I woke up in the early hours of today. I couldn’t sleep. I have been in a relationship with the most caring guy for over 4 years now, no sign of commitment. I have tried so many times to bring this up still no head way. I am really worried. I was opportune to meet a new guy and before I say Jack Robinson, this new guy wants to get hooked. Please what do I do? I will be 30 by April 15, 2018. Please help me.
ANONYMOUS 2
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Anonymous 2: Please what do you think one should do in this situation.
Let me say you were in a relationship with someone and you broke up with that person due to some reasons only to find out your girl friend was sleeping with your boyfriend while you were still in that relationship. Would you confront your girlfriend even though that person is an ex or would you just block her completely without confronting her?
Dear lovers, please kindly advise them in the comment section. Simply indicate if it is anonymous 1 or 2 so they can easily figure out which is for them. I believe I have so many relationship experts in the house. Leggo people.
Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it?
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I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, Same time, same blog and more hosts, I remain
Yours truly
Am happy to be part of this movement , may you continue to grow in wisdom @zizymena , my advice goes to anonymous2 , The simple truth is that lady was never your friend because obviously your so called friend has been dating your guy when you guys are still together , hadn't been you guys are still together i would have advised you to fight for your relationship but since the guy is now your ex , forget about that your so called girlfriend , the only way forward is to show them you are better off without them , let the guy know what he missed by choosing your girlfriend over you, make him wonder if he was crazy or blindfolded for allowing you to go , remain classy and sassy and watch the right guy come by if their is none yet ...Good luck
Hello zizy darl...hope u good..uhm to anonymous 1:
A four year relationship and the guy not showing commitment?that's a big turn off when you encounter another special individual who wana spend the rest to your life with you
We humans want care,pine for love and desire attention..but be careful though
There can be two sides to this..
1-find out why the present man you with dont want commitment..the sooner you do that the better for your heart
2-the new man who is all over you,find out what he really wants because men are mysterious
3-then evaluate your findings..but the quicker all these the better for your happiness..you not getting any younger,that doesn't mean you should decide without adequate findings on both men
Goodluck.
Solid points there....
Seriously scann the new guy, he must have seen your desperation and wants to take advantage
Wow. Like @vheobong said you've got very solid points. She is reading and I'm sure she is learning. How about anonymous 2?
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Wow
This is awesome babes
Me likey
Thank you so much dear. Oya advice the anonymous writers
Hahahahhah
I trust you to make this interesting, and you sure did.
Another amazing concept.
👏👏👏👏right at your feet i learn... Ma'ma😘
😀😀😀😀 thanks my love. This your comment is making feel so fly. Oya drop advice for those that have written
Ohk na...
Men running away, jess that a one night stand. So painful!. We all should know how to play our games right.
For anonymous 1- 4 years? One reason why i hate long term relationship. But shit happens, so let go and start something fresh, i know it not easy, but you deserve the best.
But, the devil you know, is better than the angel u just knowing
Anonymous 2 - fuck that slut, and the guy? He is a devil, so he has been banging two friends and the gf with no shame has been bitching all these while.
Thank God, you arent in the relationship again.
Bae, let the sleeping dog lie. Just pretend like you didnt know, and see how God would fight for you.
I rest my case @zizymena. Winks
Wow @rebeccafl 👁️👏👏👏👏👏 I hope they her your advice. Although for anonymous 1 saying the devil sh knows is better than the angel she doesn't know and asking her to start afresh is kinda contradicting sha
Well first of all, if you're a lady before you have sex with a guy after a date, make up your mind to enjoy the sex and if you did and the guy doesn't come back, biko mooooooooove on. Have it at the back of your mind that its just sex so you don't keep high hopes....
You kanor coman die of ironu
relationship issues
Four years and no marriage proposal? You should be a graduate by now. So here's my advice, be sure he is ready to marry(i mean he can take care of himself and a family) because most of us put pressure on men for marriage when they are not.
If you are sure he is ready, ask him straight up if he has plans to marry you or not so you know.
Babe seriously 4 years is too long a time for you to be unsure
E be like say you don't want to live long?
Have man finish?
Jump and pass biko, mooooooooove on.
It hurts but its not worth your headache.
You should be worring about the red coin market
You are just too much. For being the first to drop an advice and a reasonable one for that matter, you have won yourself 1SBD cheers
You are so on point with your comments. I couldn't agree any better
Thanks a lot, keep it up with the show.
I look forward to more
Thank you so much. I will keep trying until my good is better and my better best
Lmao...respect!!!!!
Such an intelligent comment
Thanks
LMAO....... Babes, u av killed me o.
Lol.... But its true na
Wow..
Am impressed...
Nice write up babe...
I like it ☺
Thank you 🤗🤗 oya advise them abeg
That was a great one there @zizymena
What i have for the anonymous 2... Well make sure your source is right and if it's right then it's very simple. You more know whom your friend is and be happy the relationship ended. Treat your friend like a betrayal and be careful with her
Exactly she is a betrayal. She betrayed the girl's code
This really lovely show, zizzy.. I learned one or two things from it.. Thanks.
Thank you @sbamsoneu🤗
@zizymena is doing a great job there.
My advise to both parties is;
My goodness. 😀😀😀😀
Yimu....
To you
LMAO, I think I have found my long lost petty brother .......
Guys can be so deceptive, they will do anything just to make yu pull of yo pants and then say you're clingy, they want freedom, they dont want something serious. Then why the hell ve yu been disturbing ma lyf mf. Its so annoying remembering their shits.
Hey lady whose boyfriend of four years is yet to propose biko my sister I'm sure you'd be able to manage two guys, winks. Pls don't think me as a bad girl buh sometimes ladies gotta be smart so as not to lose in d end.
Anonymous 2, let them sleep together. The guy is gonna dump her the way he dumped yu. The girl needs to learn some lessons
Strongly agree
Sometimes ladies got to be smart my dear. Always remember this thing called love, two can play. Thanks darling for this input
To anonymous1: please marry the new guy if you really love him, time is no longer on your side oh, before you reach menopause oh.
To anonymous2: it's best you just leave them both and walk away, for silence they say is the best answer for fools. Soon, their conscience will start flogging them.
To @zizymena: you have started something great here, never relent and keep steeming dear, ah Gat your back real good.
You are so right but don't forget anonymous 1 only just met the guy. Maybe he is not genuine who knows?
Thanks dear for the appreciation and encouragement. I am so grateful.
To number 2, since you have broken up with him no need confronting him, but you could let your gf know she is a bitch and keep away from such friends.
Exactly. Nice advice👏
Better pickin ....
My advice to anonymous2 is that she should just move on afterall they arnt dating anymore a lot of worse things are even happening this days and this isnt new ive even seen the one of a guy sleeping with two sisters they fought but at the end f the day life goes on,my dear focus on your future and forget about the past keep your distance from such friends am not talking bout malice though.the right man for you would definitely come if he actually loved you he wouldnt have done such to hurt you cos the ones who truly love us wont want anything that will hurt our feelings stay strong and let true love find you
Sleeping with two sisters is the worse of it. Why do you think men are like this @sparkles
My dear if i tell you say i know i would only be lieing they are jus complicated creatures that we just cant do without
This is awesome deary...
I now have somewhere to run to with relationship problem or when friends have one.
Not a pro so i will seat and learn
Thanks for this
Hehehe you Sha know you are my mentor. Nice one dearie. Thanks for all your support
Anonymous 2: Thank your star you have broken up with the asshole,at least you know nao that he is fake,what if you have gotten married to him,and you find out that he is a cheat,then you would have been in big trouble,why are you still bothering your head over him?since he is your ex nao,either he sleeps with your girlfriend or not should not give you headache again,pls worry about better things instead of trivial issues of your ex sleeping with your gf,you should be happy you leave the cheat alone
As for your girlfriend,Good ridance to bad rubbish,just tell her you are aware of the fact that she was sleeping with your bf turns ex,that soon or later karma will take place,you dont need to fight with her,let her knows its her loss not urs,and next time be very careful of the friends you keep
Anonymous 1: if you have being with a guy for over four years and he is not showing any signs of commitment,then why are you still with him,that means to say he is commited to someone elsewhere,be smart,no time to waste,for a mature guy to be in a relationship with you for over Four years without showing any signs of commitment that means he see no future in you,take a drastic step,again you meet this guy he wants to get hooked up quick,no big deal,just make sure you get to know him better and asses him well,you are getting old no doubt about that,but still open your eyes widely before choosing your partner,remember marriage is a life journey
Good job zizi keep it up
Oh wow. @switmag you just blew my head with this input of yours. Never knew you are a relationship expert. I should feature you one of these days so you share this golden knowledge👏👏👏👏 I am sure they are reading.
You are always welcome zizi
Anon 1... Maybe he is scared of commitment but there comes a stage in ones life that once you guys have reached a certain level in your relationship, you have to know where your stand is, any man who you cant see the future with is def not ready for commitment, as for the second guy, do a background check up.
#p.s:
And lastly, marriage is not an achievement.
Anon 2, Any lady who sleeps with her girlfriends boyfriend should be an exgirlfriend and yes its cool you Let them know that you know and No do not confront them. Dont give them that avenue and wishing you the best.
Zizy any man that sleeps with a woman and keeps her hanging is a jerk ass... Whatever it is.. And to the babe you could also check yourself out, something must chase a man away. Lovely work Zizy.
Hehehe you got me here with "any lady who sleeps with her girlfriend's boyfriend should be an ex girlfriend." That is just the truth. What I told her too, let them know that you know that way they won't think you are a fool.
Thanks maam @sweetetglo-eu. Amazing inputs 👏👏👏
Most guys that took off only came for the sex just like most girls are in for the money.... But a woman always has the power to change the guy.. It all depends on her game
Tell us more about that power to change the guy. How do we make him stay after sex?
Change which guy? What are you saying bayi?
Zizy, you are really doing it perfectly, keep it up.
To issue 1.
Staying in a relationship without a clear cut definition and direction is very detrimental to you as a lady, if maybe he is not financially ready but is clearly going to take your relationship further that is a different thing, but according to your write-up, it's four years and no defined direction, please think again.
Here is what you're to do:
Stop offering him sex often if you do before, if you are cohabiting or always at reach anytime anyhow, clear from his immediate reach but keep a good talking contact with him. With these developments he will seek to find out what the problem was if actually he is into you, but if he is not serious he will ignore those things which will eventually give both of you the space needed to kill the lust which existed before among two of you.
Beast you brother, I Adolf my coconut u just slayed the answer here.
Thanks 👍
Wow👏👏👏👏👏 you guys are blasting my head with your wonderful inputs. @dubem-eu you just handled this issue so perfectly. Thank you so much. She says thank you.
You are welcome!
Autosense👌
U made massive sense Bro...
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Anonymous 1:
The guy might not be ready to hook up with the girl due to some reasons probably he's not yet ready or he isn't financially okay yet. The lady needs to sit him down and seek for his opinion and if he's not ready to get married in the nearest future them she can walk out of the relationship, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I wouldn't advise her to start dating the other guy cause she nearly knows him and a guy can't be predicted you don't know what his up to.
The best thing is to give her boyfriend an ultimatum, and if it lapses without ant improvement that means he's not yet ready.
Anonymous 2:
The person doesn't need to confront her girlfriend since they've been dating even when she was still in a relationship with her ex. A proverb says what goes around will surely come around. So it's plainly written that the same thing is gonna happen to her
All the lady needs to do is sit back and watch the outcome of her girlfriend.
You are so right dear. What goes around surely comes around. Such a wise advice
At times its not what you desire love gives to you. And when you are not happy in a relationship, withdraw back, backoff and think if the person you are dying for is worth dying for. If really he loves you, he will come back and try to make things right then you give him your terms, if he accepts it, give him a second chance because in every relationship there are room for change.
Don't rush into a new relationship yet, give yourself some time to study the person's attitude.bcos if you don't find your match, you will continue to make the same mistakes all over again.
When it happened like that, you meditate on what to do,if your mind tells you not to confront your girl friend know that that mind is confused. She is your friend, she's not a mascurade that you can not see her face. Even though you don't need the relationship, still confront her and let her know that you are aware of what is happening, because if you keep it in your mind, you will end up putting yourself in an emotional prison. In order to free your mind, let her know. Because when you don't, you will end up hurting yourself.
There are some things that you can not conceive. When you conceive a matter like this in your heart, the only picture you see is what has happened. When you sleep, you see it, when you are bathing you see it, when you see your girl friend, you see it, you are eating you see it. Hence, the best thing to do is talk things over with her, this shows that you are mature.
@zizymena, you are too much. Chop kiss 😘
@diamondrich the relationship expert.
@zizymena you are doing a good job with this you brought up... I love to engage in stuffs like# Anonymous 1
you will soon be thirty and you have been in a relationship with this guy for a good four years yet he is not giving you aNY sign that he is going to marry you...
you really need to ask yourself this questions
if your answers are no.. then I believe you got the answer and should be able to make the right decision, nobody can decide for you..
the reason why he is so caring might be because you are useful to him in some ways and he doesn't wanna lose all that...
True but some guys use all those chit chat to just deceive ladies oo....
I swear....
I want you to be the mother of my children, who would our little girl look like? blah blah blah...
Wow kudos to you. I don't dig relationship issues like that but sure to learning some tips from Saturday night with Zizy and the contributions here.the
Keep coming around I am sure you will learn a lot
Nice post
Thaks
Hello @zizymena
Nne this is a first class show! Congratulations. On the two questions....let me think first okay. This is beautiful!
@eurogee
Thank you so much boss. I'm so humbled.
If I attempt to take a careful look at this, there are some highlights that will aid my opinion
Now this story is a funny but complicated one because :
*I don't know what this lady means by caring... And if it is what I think, I guess the relationship has been smooth for the past 4 years because the guy has been very caring and possibly doing his best to make her happy
*She has raised the issue with the guy but probably he has always tried to explain why he is yet to commit her or engage her. But the relationship is still healthy...
Now she met a guy and decided to double date... (can you see that she even compromised before she discovered what she discovered? )
Now she has what she wants from this new guy. So what's the problem? After all she decided to double date and this guy has suggested what she wants (settling down)... I guess she has what she wants, My opinion tho. Much love from me
Yeah she wants your opinion @sammyswt
First Of all I want to recommend the effort you put together in writing this. For anonymous 2, It's better You are not in the relationship anymore. This is a lesson that life has taught you, be a good student and learn. She has never been your friend she was just there to monitor your progress. Since you are not with the guy any longer, There is no need for the confrontation. Move on with your new life.
@Zizymena weldone
You are so on point. Nice one @matadonis
This is mouth watering....full of fun and entertainment. Good job Zizy, this is amazing.
Thank you so much Capt pee
Very interesting post @zizymena.
My advice for Anonymous 2: Dear the worst thing you can ever do is to pent up negative emotions such as this. You need to confront your girlfriend and make her know that you know what she was doing with your ex. If not, prepare to be depressed and sad for a very long time.
She might be defensive or insulting or might even get a call or nasty text from your ex concerning the matter, they might both want to make you look crazy or intimidate you dear but never allow it.
Finally, you might feel a little tensed and sad after this but trust me, with time, you will realize you just set yourself free from that tormenting prison.
Stand your ground because you are beautiful, confident and strong.
Always have this at the back of your mind, GOD WILL BRING THEM ON THEIR KNELLS.
THEIR ARE SO MANY GREAT MEN, GOD WILL SURELY BLESS YOU WITH ONE
👏👏👏 I can't stop clapping for you babe. This is so on point.
Thanks dear.
Many blessings...
Wooh am inspire thanks for the infor GOD bless you
God bless you too dear
Congratulations @zizymena on the successful kickoff of your show, and you really did awesome, I love your openness with the show.
About relationship and sex:
I believe sex doesn't depict love, I can have sex with a girl even if I don't love her, so ladies should not put more expectations on a man simply because you had sex with him, it was a mutual thing, you gave him and he also gave you as well so what's the fuss about, if he doesn't come back after sex then he's not worth the stress.
Four years and counting
The mistake most ladies make is that they fail to define their relationships, what do you want from the relationship and what does the guy want, is marriage in his plans, if not then my dear if you are ready for marriage please move ahead and stop wasting your time even if you confront him, he will tell you stories trying to placate you and won't still step up, you will remain there and continue giving him free fuck, after all who will give up a sure pussy.
My boyfriend, my ex, my friend, blah blah blah
What would confronting your friend do for you, and why will you even still call her your friend, in fact come close, closer, oya kneel down, I decree upon your life, today that sense will fall on you in Jesus name. She is not your friend, she's your enemy.
Well Zizy sweetness great job, looking forward to be here for the next show, kisses. Mmuah
Wow. Very nice advise you gave here. If they follow what you say I believe they will have a brighter future. Thanks so much dear for stopping by.
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Well, I would say God has a purpose for everything. For reasons best known to you both, you broke up with the relationship only to discover he has been having an affair with your gf. Congrats the relationship didnt lead anywhere. Else you would have been sharing your man with your supposed gf who could poison you and take over. Though the relationship is over with your ex, pls cut ties with your back stabbing girlfriend.
For the one in a relationship for four years, no proposal, is she smart at all? Let God not let me be in a relationship with someone for two years without proposal o. Two years too much sef. He cant be shining congo at will and not make his intentions known na. Who gives that?? Pls now that the lady managed to play dumb for four years, please let her give the guy ultimatum. If at the expiration of the set time, still no intentiond made known by way of proposal, o girl waka. At worse, get a back up. Hahaha, did i just say that?
Hahahaha mama your advise for the first anonymous got me laughing. thank you so much @adoore-eu