There's been times when I've been dragged into drama-filled situations, events and conversations and, I have to say, I don't like it. I'm rather bad in those situations and I tend to become apathetic quite quickly and prefer to simply to do my own thing. I don't just mean here on Hive, but in the real world also. I choose to ignore drama and it goes away, or out of my sphere so I'm unaware of it continuing. I just don't see the point in getting involved. I mean in the real world and especially here on Hive.
This doesn't mean to say I'm ignorant of drama when it happens or will not note it, and those promoting said drama, just that I don't tend to feel that I need, or want it, and so largely it goes ignored, as do the people who try to pull me into it. I'm quite well informed mostly so know it occurs and have some clue about what and who is driving the drama; I just don't care for it. I've been this way for a long time and I think, and I'm just spit-balling here, that it's my prerogative to be so.
One thing I've learned over the time I've been around is that no matter what my point of view, right or wrong, I'm never going to be able to convince someone who has their own differing opinion. So I do not try.
That, of course, doesn't mean I can't state my opinion with impunity and I sometimes do, respectfully of course. That also doesn't mean people need to agree with me because I'm not always right, nor do I wish to be. I have my opinions on things naturally, most of which I'd never speak openly about outside of my cadre of close relationships, but I know those opinions don't always align with other peoples'; we're all different after all.
Sometimes I state an opinion and leave it to those directly affected, to do what they will with it. Sometimes it's a suggestion, other times just an observation, but either way I leave it to be dealt with by the person or group affected. But here's the thing, sometimes other people jump in with their big wooden drama-spoon to stir the pot. It's easy to do on social media too; as simple as some text and a tag. OK, that's their prerogative of course but it rarely has the desired effect upon me and those people usually don't get the rise they're seeking; the drama they're seeking - From me at least.
I'm not sure why people rally around drama, and as per paragraph one, I don't care.
What I do know is that people take it so seriously that when they don't receive the pay-dirt they feel deserving of by not being able to drag others into their vortex of runny, smelly drama-shit they tend to get progressively more vocal, and often abusive. They also attempt to rally the masses to their cause by drawing support through tagging once again. It's a common path for those types to walk and they are welcome to it. Have at it I say, I'll not be along for the journey. Don't send me a postcard.
I guess drama, stirring the pot, inciting more drama and perpetuating it gives people a sense of purpose and that's why social media is so full of it. Maybe those that do it don't have much else in their lives and so they feel it validates their existence. Maybe they're unhappy and feel insignificant in real life and this is the only place they feel powerful or in control. Again, I don't know. However for me, and I speak not for you or anyone else ever, just me, it doesn't seem worth it. Ever. Going to war with people over, often, the smallest of things just seems a useless waste of time and effort.
This is just my opinion. You can have yours.
And...That's it.
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Yeah, kind of like getting trapped by a couple getting ready to divorce and one side or the other wanting you to take their side and agree with them that they are right and the other side is wrong, then, boom friends for a long time no more, they got back together and now you are in the shit house because you agreed with one side of the other.
Drama can be fun, I enjoy it at times, but I do try to not take one side or the other, especially when I like people on both sides, so it is sit on the sidelines and watch the game.
Exactly like that. I just don't have the time.
I'm not into drama. Will I help people out of tough situations? Yes. Will I discourse and debate on topics? Yes. But when people add in that element of drama, escalate the situations to heights that they don't need to just for the same of stirring the pot? I'm out.
Gotta love a good shit-pot stirrer huh?
Yeah I get you on that. I think the drama from people increases in waves then pulls back for a while thankfully. I used to get into some of it elsewhere and occasionally on here but I’ve given up at it. I have better things to do and focus my attention on!
I find it amusing the digging in of heels and trying to call some additional troops as back up. My cousin used to do that to me, drag me into fights he was having on Fakebook. I obliged for one or two but then stopped as I lost interest in fighting with people about things they are passionate about. If one isn’t ready to change their opinion on something, arguing with them on the internet isn’t going to do that.
Uugggh! revolting. Drama!
This is the sort of thing I'm talking about. I have zero tolerance for it, especially when the topic is often unimportant and nonsensical.
There is one thing I say very commonly Galen, especially after our experience in recent politics all over the world; we can't leave the stage empty.
Stage never remains empty. If you are an introvert or rather 'not get involved', then someone else will occupy the stage and then they will control the narrative, however toxic or outrageous that might be, and then you won't be able to control the narrative.
So, I have learned from severe bitterness in my life, that we should never leave the stage empty. These days it is not about the right or wrong, there is complete ignorance and even aversion towards FACTS. It is essentially the loudest voice and consensus. So in modern world, you can't be silent. You be silent and you get run over.
So we hold our line, at any cost.
This is from Imagine Dragons :)
Trust me, I'm not silent, I just choose how and when to strike, and avoid ongoing drama. I tend to say my piece and leave it at that. The progressive nature of many people repels me.
Of course I know that. Just re-iterations. Almost talking to myself :)
Lol...I talk to myself all the time. Positive self-talk has helped me through many tough moments and has delivered some amazing results. They say it's the first sign of madness. I disagree.
I hate drama just for the sake of drama. No, thank you. There are people that don't feel important enough unless they are spearheading a witch hunt, dragging up an old would, or taking a crack at stirring the ole pot.
In my opinion, if they have this much time, they need a part-time job added to their repertoire.
Honest to God discussions, debates (you can debate with courtesy and respect) when issues arise, as long as there is meaning and an outcome expected, are great. There will be times of discomfort, but not because you have haters in the crowd, but, if it doesn't go the way I want.
Life isn't rainbows and unicorns, although that might be my preference... if someone asked me. But, honestly, let's talk about it, there is no need for drama in my life.
It seems the art of healthy debate is becoming a thing of the past and is replaced with progressive escalation, abuse and hateful attacks. Yep, humans.
That's not human, that's outright stupidity, unreasonable and no class.
Yep. Humans are, mostly.
Where did we go wrong ? Where is our tolerance? Understanding? Compassion? Love foe one another?
I'm so out of touch. Thankfully.
That's what I mean Swigs. We went off the rails and can't seem to find our way back to the righteous path. I mean generally. It's a plague and society is the petri dish. I'm out of touch too Denise, the only saving grace to keep me somewhat on the up. There's a rare few shining lights around the place, hive seems to have a lot, but also so many of the other; those that feel putting out other people's candles is legit.
I am glad I am out of touch, honestly.
I feel good when I come here, visit the places that put out some sunshine, and leave the trolls to themselves. They can fight among themselves. It's the only thing I can do.
It isn't always possible to stay out of the drama, especially when it threatens something that you want to succeed. Free market also means being able to defend yourself and the things that are important to you.
It can get messy, but generally those acting with some poise and grace come out the other side better for it and untarnished.
You're right indeed.
Doing that, ☝️ the grace and poise scenario, is fine...It's the progressive escalation which many deploy that brings the drama. People seem to have lost the ability to debate preferring to rant and rave instead. It takes all kinds I guess, but those kinds don't get my time.
Some people can't live without controversy or drama....like sometimes I wonder why someone would purposely not want peace...like must your life be so chaotic? 😤
It's a conundrum, but that's how it is for people; some thrive on drama. It can't be a pleasant way to live.
It most certainly can't
I agree with all you say and am on board...As long as there's no drama and the associated behaviour that usually comes with it. I've got nothing against discourse, discussion and learning new things. Add in the drama and I'm out.