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RE: Why He Prefers the Girl on the Side

in #relationship8 years ago (edited)

I am not against polyamory, it's done by consensus. I have a problem with the fact that we, women, have to change ourselves just to keep a cheater. the irony, duh.

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The problem is you want monogamy but you also want a cheater. They are choices you make. You are choosing to change your self to stay with a cheater. You could choose to not stay with a cheater if you wanted. Try to find someone that isn't a cheater.
I know you would hate to think it but most people want monogamy.
I know a lot of people don't like it when I say it but a lot has to do with K selected vs R selected behavior.

What are K selected and R selected behavior?

I think you misunderstand me. I was saying I dont judge people who practice polyamory. its kinda different from cheating. Cheating is not done by consensus. Polyamory on the other hand.

Oh, I don't judge people for it. They can do what they want imo.

The whole "its a social construct" thing is used as moral jusitfacation for why its ok to do things the person saying it disagrees with. im not saying you are doing that. but the people blaming things on social constructs are, you can tell when you ask them to elaborate on the statements they make about the things they do. Its all mental gymnastics imo.

You said "women, have to change ourselves just to keep a cheater" so I thought you were talking about cheaters.